Being “faithful” as you so put it seems to be in the context of a relationship. If the guy was “UNfaithful”, it would be because they had made a commitment TO be faithful.
If he was unfaithful, and she’s was ok with it, then was really unfaithful? Because if she was ok with it, it would seem there was no true commitment where they had promised to be faithful to one another.
ohhh yes, even if a woman claims to be “ok” at a guy being unfaithful and can put it behind them, doesn’t take away the fact that the woman being cheated on lacked something to this guy, and that “something” is what she dwells on and makes her feel like she’s not good enough… It’s best to talk and decide on what kind of relationship you are having with your significant other, so no one gets hurt.
I agree with both of you (startingtoday and Alejandra) and to me your right, but what is your take on the fact that a lot of women seem to go for the type of guy that comes off as being extremely self conscious, arrogant and that basicly portrays the type of guy that will likely cheat ?… It seems to me that a majority of women go for that type of dude.
I don’t know Stevie; I wouldn’t say that a MAJORITY of women go for that type. Actually, I am hard pressed to think of any women that I know that consistently end up with men like that. Maybe one? I’m not sure what to tell you on that one!
The reason a lot of times is that, US WOMEN love to believe that we can “change” him, we like the challenge, and we are HOPING for the “bad boy” to change his ways for us, we see the potential they have, but forget that they have been the way they are there whole life, and you’re dooomed for failure from the start. Some of us get lucky, and get to have the bad boy that is tired and willing to change his ways, but that is VERY rare… But overall bad boys are just SOOO damn sexy, it is just something forbiden about them that yells out, and the NICE guys just don’t make a statement… don’t get me wrong Nice guys can be great as well, but you probably have to get to know them and sometimes we just want that rough around the edges, tattoos, strong guy…. u know what i mean?
I don’t know.. I do like rough around the edges, strong, self confident, etc, but I think I’ve done it maybe once.. Dated a guy I thought I could “change.” I didn’t work, it would never work, and I’ve never put myself in that situation again. Why would you want to change a guy? I want to be with a man who I like because of who he is.. not someone I want to change.
i guess it’s the whole adventure of it… I did it in MY PAST… plenty of times… but yea YOU’re right it never works…. See.. now .. i have the whole “bad boy” now rough around the edges, strong and self confident, but he had already changed his ways… on his own, i guess if someone wants to change it wont be because of someone else… it will be because THEY want to better themselves…
well fact of life is that HUMANs will change, constantly everyday… hopefully though.. it’s for the good… and sometimes as time goes on, people will grow apart, diffrent interests, sexual attraction tends to go, you just don’t feel the same way about the other person, and that too will make a person change towards you, also STRESS will make a relationship fall apart, a lot of things can change a person… Whatever happen to growing old together like those old people that are still holding hands and REAL LOVE?
Well Stevie and Alejandra, I think it’s a balance.. You can’t go into a relationship thinking that you can change that person. And like Stevie said, he wants to date a girl and like her for who she is, and hopes she won’t change. This is good. He should like her for who she is.. And I think this is where Alejandra’s point becomes valid – people do change. But if you like her, and the relationship progresses further, before it gets too serious, you both need to talk about future goals and ideas, and make sure you’re on the same track. Etc.. goals, careers, marriage, children, city or suberbs, all sorts of things. You want to make sure you’re both headed in the same direction, even if you seem perfect for each other now.
June 22, 2007 at 7:29 pm
Being “faithful” as you so put it seems to be in the context of a relationship. If the guy was “UNfaithful”, it would be because they had made a commitment TO be faithful.
If he was unfaithful, and she’s was ok with it, then was really unfaithful? Because if she was ok with it, it would seem there was no true commitment where they had promised to be faithful to one another.
So yes, they like faithful men.
June 25, 2007 at 8:15 pm
ohhh yes, even if a woman claims to be “ok” at a guy being unfaithful and can put it behind them, doesn’t take away the fact that the woman being cheated on lacked something to this guy, and that “something” is what she dwells on and makes her feel like she’s not good enough… It’s best to talk and decide on what kind of relationship you are having with your significant other, so no one gets hurt.
June 26, 2007 at 1:26 pm
I agree with both of you (startingtoday and Alejandra) and to me your right, but what is your take on the fact that a lot of women seem to go for the type of guy that comes off as being extremely self conscious, arrogant and that basicly portrays the type of guy that will likely cheat ?… It seems to me that a majority of women go for that type of dude.
June 26, 2007 at 1:38 pm
I don’t know Stevie; I wouldn’t say that a MAJORITY of women go for that type. Actually, I am hard pressed to think of any women that I know that consistently end up with men like that. Maybe one? I’m not sure what to tell you on that one!
June 26, 2007 at 2:01 pm
The reason a lot of times is that, US WOMEN love to believe that we can “change” him, we like the challenge, and we are HOPING for the “bad boy” to change his ways for us, we see the potential they have, but forget that they have been the way they are there whole life, and you’re dooomed for failure from the start. Some of us get lucky, and get to have the bad boy that is tired and willing to change his ways, but that is VERY rare… But overall bad boys are just SOOO damn sexy, it is just something forbiden about them that yells out, and the NICE guys just don’t make a statement… don’t get me wrong Nice guys can be great as well, but you probably have to get to know them and sometimes we just want that rough around the edges, tattoos, strong guy…. u know what i mean?
June 26, 2007 at 5:15 pm
I don’t know.. I do like rough around the edges, strong, self confident, etc, but I think I’ve done it maybe once.. Dated a guy I thought I could “change.” I didn’t work, it would never work, and I’ve never put myself in that situation again. Why would you want to change a guy? I want to be with a man who I like because of who he is.. not someone I want to change.
June 26, 2007 at 7:48 pm
i guess it’s the whole adventure of it… I did it in MY PAST… plenty of times… but yea YOU’re right it never works…. See.. now .. i have the whole “bad boy” now rough around the edges, strong and self confident, but he had already changed his ways… on his own, i guess if someone wants to change it wont be because of someone else… it will be because THEY want to better themselves…
June 26, 2007 at 8:02 pm
You see thats how a guy thinks…we want to date a girl for who she is and we HOPE she won’t change … it’s a fact
June 26, 2007 at 8:33 pm
well fact of life is that HUMANs will change, constantly everyday… hopefully though.. it’s for the good… and sometimes as time goes on, people will grow apart, diffrent interests, sexual attraction tends to go, you just don’t feel the same way about the other person, and that too will make a person change towards you, also STRESS will make a relationship fall apart, a lot of things can change a person… Whatever happen to growing old together like those old people that are still holding hands and REAL LOVE?
June 27, 2007 at 3:54 pm
Well Stevie and Alejandra, I think it’s a balance.. You can’t go into a relationship thinking that you can change that person. And like Stevie said, he wants to date a girl and like her for who she is, and hopes she won’t change. This is good. He should like her for who she is.. And I think this is where Alejandra’s point becomes valid – people do change. But if you like her, and the relationship progresses further, before it gets too serious, you both need to talk about future goals and ideas, and make sure you’re on the same track. Etc.. goals, careers, marriage, children, city or suberbs, all sorts of things. You want to make sure you’re both headed in the same direction, even if you seem perfect for each other now.
July 13, 2007 at 8:14 pm
Faithful men – do they exist?
July 20, 2007 at 10:28 pm
I exist !
July 20, 2007 at 10:29 pm
But sometimes I do think about the Unfaithful ones
Does that make me promiscuous or deliberatly seeking temptations ?
April 22, 2008 at 9:42 pm
Men will cheat forever, the good dogs, and the bad dogs all cheat!!!